Their story is not MY story.


A young mother loses her impossibly beautiful baby boy just a few weeks after he’s born from sudden death syndrome.

This amazingly motivational and talented teenager has terminal cancer.

This woman died of cancer shortly after starting a family.

This guy died from a blood clot in his ankle.

A long time married couple called it quits because one of them was bored.

A simple bee sting kills a pregnant mother.

Sad, sad stories all around us. We are bombarded with them everywhere we look, so it’s easy to think OH MY GOD IT’S TRAGEDY ALL AROUND US.

Well yes, tragedy IS all around us, but not right now in my own immediate world. In fact, in my immediate world today is pretty lovely.


That’s a great attitude, right? I mean, maybe it WILL, but who’s to say?

What I need to do is to stop reading the stories going around Facebook with titles like: Family tragedy or ANYTHING ABOUT A SICK PERSON.

Because while my heart breaks for those whose story it IS, I’m ALWAYS wondering if it will be my story someday. I can’t live with my head in the sand and think nothing horrible will ever happen to me – and there’s the whole zen of living in the present….but then I think about the people who’s tragedies happened as THEY were living zen in the present. And then boom.

It is life. It is ugly, it is mean sometimes but what I’m trying to remember is that THEIR STORY is not MY STORY, and really MY STORY is the only one I should be concerned about. And to not worry about if I’ll have a similar story to share one day.

How do YOU avoid getting sucked into tragic stories and not making them your own? Please share.


Instead of worry

it came to me


This week I was a bit nervous for an appointment, and unfortunately I had some time in the waiting room to sit, and of course I started to worry about it. Then, I noticed the woman next to me was….miserable. Her eyes were closed and she was taking long, slow, deep breaths and her face looked pained.

Right as I saw her, I changed my thought pattern to concern for her and I prayed for her and sent good energy her way until her name was called. And by then I was completely relaxed.

It IS possible to beat worry.